The eulogy approach

Thursday - I crammed in a half day of work and rushed to the airport. I maneuvered the crowd and made it through security just in time to grab yet another coffee. I had to make sure I didn’t fall asleep on the plane because I was flying home to Baltimore for my sister’s memorial and had to finish one of the most important speeches of my life, my sister’s eulogy.

Fighting back tears, I pulled it up on my computer and finished the last touches. As I read it, I was surprised at what was missing. There was no mention of money, cars, or careers. The page was filled with stories and memories. I spoke of her character, favorite seasons, and what made her so unique. Listing those who were lucky enough to have her love.

Somewhere over Colorado, I started wondering how I would be remembered and realized more than ever that I wanted my eulogy to sound just like this. I wanted people to know about my genuine character, that I madly loved dogs, and that my favorite season is autumn. Yet, I find myself spending most of my time chasing more money and career success. We spend so much time striving for status. Truthfully, the hustle of wanting more in life is addicting to me, but ironically, it is not how I want to be remembered.

So how do I reconcile this? I have to make room for all of it. Make a point to consciously commit to investing more time in worthwhile activities. I don’t want to stop focusing on my career, but as I race through my day, overcaffeinated and still exhausted, I need to slow down and think about what I call the eulogy approach. A point of view where, no matter how many things I acquire, I still want to be remembered for my ability to love, my thoughtfulness toward others, and my favorite season.

The takeaway? As far as success, go for it! Just remember to enjoy making a difference as much as you enjoy making money.